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Sarah Ferholt

Social and Emotional Development

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Sense of Belonging

Child experiences a sense of belonging in environments that link, extend, and affirm the child’s family and community. Child expresses comfort and joy with human diversity.

0–9 months – See this age across all domains Infants

What educators might observe

  • Expresses contentment or joy when trusted adult is present
  • Develops cultural identity through daily caregiving interactions, household smell, sounds
  • Babbles a range of sounds and imitates intonation and sounds of the home language(s)
  • Looks more at faces that resemble the faces of familiar, trusted adults
  • May react to and/or interact differently with others who do not resemble their family members and who speak other languages or language variations

Ways educators might support the child's development

  • Talk to the family about their caregiving practices and adopt similar practices in the learning environment
  • Help families identify, find, and receive supports needed to grow and thrive (e.g., food, housing, mental health resources, and books in the home)
  • At a minimum, learn a few simple and essential words, especially greetings, in families’ home language
  • Provide opportunities for the baby to interact with all kinds of people by taking them on community walks and introducing them to neighbors
  • Express togetherness. Smile when the baby smiles, laugh when they laugh; (“I am happy to be with you.”).

8–16 months – See this age across all domains Infants

What educators might observe

  • Plays beside other children
  • Demonstrates ease and comfort when spoken to in their home language
  • Cries when family member leaves

Ways educators might support the child's development

  • Affirm the baby’s choice to seek comfort and care from an educator who shares their racial, linguistic, or cultural background
  • Show empathy and acceptance of children’s feelings, and be emotionally close
  • Be open to close physical contact with the child; allow children to hold your hand and sit in your lap
  • Encourage a sense of belonging within the classroom by having homelike touches, including pillows, pictures of the children’s families (at eye level), comfort items, and a place to hold the child’s belongings

15–24 months – See this age across all domains Toddlers

What educators might observe

  • Displays ease and comfort in a variety of places when with familiar adults
  • Follows familiar routines (e.g., knows what chair is theirs when meal time occurs)

Ways educators might support the child's development

  • Participate in cultural events in the community
  • Invite families to make family books or share photo albums of people who are important to the child; keep these in a place that is accessible to the child
  • Ensure that the materials in the learning environment incorporate home cultures and introduce diversity through books, posters, and puzzles
  • Allow objects that are important to the child and representative of their family, community, and culture to be brought into the learning environment
  • Encourage children of all genders to play with a wide variety of toys (dolls, puzzles, dress-up, trucks, etc.)

24–36 months – See this age across all domains Toddlers

What educators might observe

  • Identifies self as a member of a family; talks about family members who are not present
  • Is curious about physical characteristics of self and others (e.g., skin color, hair texture, or gender anatomy)
  • May begin to use social labels such as race to describe people and “match” them based on physical characteristics
  • Asks simple questions about other children (e.g., “Where’s Tommy?” “What’s he doing?”)
  • May begin to show fear, discomfort, or dislike toward people who look or speak in unfamiliar ways

Ways educators might support the child's development

  • Invite families to celebrate the child’s culture and traditions with the group (e.g., family comes to school snack time and serves sushi to children)
  • Gently introduce the child to a new learning environment, verbally and physically showing the child items to be played with and places their caretaking needs will be met; allow the child to observe and enter the environment at their own pace
  • Point out familiar items or people within the environment (“Look, Susie is here! You played with Susie yesterday with the cars.” “There is a maraca; you have a maraca like this at home.”)
  • Facilitate the initiation and inclusion of children in play

3-year-olds – See this age across all domains Preschool

What educators might observe

  • Uses pretend play to explore, practice, and understand social roles
  • May assign roles to other children during dramatic play that reflect their lived experience (e.g., “You be the Mama, and I’ll be the Papa with the baby.”)
  • Identifies gender and other similarities and differences between self and others; may draw conclusions based on stereotypes and personal experience
  • Notices differences, and may ask why (e.g., “Why is he in a wheelchair?”)
  • Children may begin using their home language in certain places and times or with certain people

Ways educators might support the child's development

  • Describe gender as how a person feels (“Josie is a boy because Josie feels like a boy on the inside.”)
  • Make the child’s home language seen and heard in the learning environment
  • Adapt curriculum and materials in the learning environment so that all children are able to participate
  • Connect families in their learning environment to one another
    • Family breakfast in the classroom or program
    • Book groups
    • Parenting reflection groups
  • Encourage families to engage in play-based learning activities in their home language
  • Accept silence or quiet observation as an acceptable way for children to participate, particularly when they are new to the learning environment or if that is consistent with their personality
  • Reflect on your own biases and the ways those biases manifest in your interactions with children, colleagues, and families

4-year-olds – See this age across all domains Preschool

What educators might observe

  • Identifies self as a member of a group (e.g., refers to our family, our school, our faith, or our culture)
  • Begins to show evidence of internalized superiority or internalized oppression based on race, ethnicity, class, gender, religion, ability status, family structure, body size, and/or language
  • Adjusts behavior to different settings (e.g., family vs. learning environment)
  • Compares similarities or differences of others (e.g., height, hair color, or skin tone)
  • Seeks out people and objects in the learning environment that affirm their sense of belonging (e.g., educator who shares their home language, family photo, item from home)
  • Develops their own theories about what causes differences in ability, gender, and skin color
  • May mask fear of differences with avoidance and/or silliness

Ways educators might support the child's development

  • Welcome children’s questions about difference (“You are noticing your skin color is different than mine. What words would you use to say what color my skin is?”)
  • Include books and materials within the learning environment that respect and honor differences and those by authors of different backgrounds (e.g., culture, gender, ethnicity, language, and abilities)
  • Ask families to send in photos of things that are meaningful to each child, such as foods, celebrations, and family activities; use pictures to make personalized posters, displays, and class books
  • Ask families to bring familiar objects from their home, such as music, instruments, household items, clothing, and toys, and encourage children to talk about and use them in the classroom
  • In non-parochial schools, refrain from celebrating religious holidays, such as Christmas; instead invite families to visit the class and share their cultural traditions

5-year-olds – See this age across all domains Preschool

What educators might observe

  • When a child’s home culture or experience differs from the dominant or mainstream culture, they may
    • Reject their home culture and adopt the dominant one
    • Reject dominant culture and insist on home culture
    • Learn to adjust behavior and to become bi-cultural
  • W hen a child’s home culture and experience has been affirmed, they may express pride in their racial, linguistic and cultural identity
  • When a child’s home culture or experience aligns with dominant or mainstream culture, they may
    • Internalize a false sense that they are “normal” or superior
  • Prefers a child who speaks their own language or language variation as a friend

Ways educators might support the child's development

  • Invite family members into the classroom and talk to them as part of a study of families, careers, or interests
  • Engage families in conversations about their national and family origins to affirm positive social identities
  • Record families telling stories in their home language and include them as part of your listening center/library
  • Intentionally plan activities to counter potential overgeneralizations or existing stereotypes
  • Engage children in conversation about unfair social differences, including wealth and power
  • Model and explain accurate and appropriate vocabulary for different social groups. For example, name your own racial identity.
  • Teach children about what causes differences in skin color using books like All the Colors We Are: The Story of how We Get Our Skin Color , by Katie Kissinger

6-year-olds – See this age across all domains Early elementary

What educators might observe

  • Shows evidence of social messages affecting how they feel about their self and group identity (e.g., evidence of internalized superiority or internalized oppression)
  • Knows that insults related to race, gender, and cultural identity are hurtful
  • May choose to play only with children close to their gender, racial, or cultural identities
  • Explores the similarities and differences in the home cultures of their peers

Ways educators might support the child's development

  • Convey to families that you respect them as their child’s best advocate
  • Create opportunities for children to know each other by interviewing each child in a group as part of a name study or family study
  • Incorporate the four goals of Anti-Bias Education (listed below) into the daily curriculum
    • Each child will demonstrate self-awareness, confidence, family pride, and positive social identities
    • Each child will express comfort and joy with human diversity; accurate language for human differences; and deep, caring human connections
    • Each child will increasingly recognize unfairness, have language to describe unfairness, and understand that unfairness hurts
    • Each child will demonstrate empowerment and the skills to act, with others or alone, against prejudice and/or discriminatory actions

7-year-olds – See this age across all domains Early elementary

What educators might observe

  • Represents themselves as part of racial, cultural, linguistic, or national groups
  • Forms groups of friends who share their gender, racial or cultural identities
  • Describes how they adjust their behavior between home and the learning environment

Ways educators might support the child's development

  • Support a strong classroom community by allowing children to learn about one another informally and formally
  • Read stories and books to the class that reflect the diversities represented therein
  • Use maps to allow children to locate their homes in the community and their national origins
  • Connect families to work together on volunteering in the classroom, on fundraising projects, and chaperoning field trips, etc
  • Include community-building games in the daily routine at morning meeting and closing meeting

8-year-olds – See this age across all domains Early elementary

What educators might observe

  • Exhibits understanding of larger concepts related to self and belonging (e.g., safety, respect, kindness, and care for objects, self, and others)
  • Identifies gender and racial stereotypes in books and media
  • Knows some historical facts about their family, community, and culture
  • May disengage from learning if they feel like they do not belong at school

Ways educators might support the child's development

  • Suggest out-of-school time connections for children; recommend to families of specific children which classmates or afterschool programs may be good matches, and include this suggestion in mid-year reports and meetings
  • Create multiple opportunities each week for children to share personal experience with their classmates (e.g., include sharing about their lives or reading aloud personal narratives at daily morning meeting)
  • Provide class-wide opportunities for children to build their own social context
    • Write get-well notes to classmates who are ill for many days
    • Make “celebrating you” booklets on children’s birthdays in which each child contributes a note or drawing for the birthday child
  • Incorporate social justice into your curriculum, providing opportunities for children to engage in inquiry and action around social issues that they care about in their community

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